I Let AI Help Me Design My Perfect Partner. He Showed Up in 30 Days

I want to be clear about something before I tell you this story.

I’m three times divorced, and I honestly believe it’s because I settled every time, but each time in a different way.

I’m not ashamed of this fact. I’ve actually come to be grateful, because the wild ride of life experiences I had because of those marriages have given me valuable things to share with others.

But I wanted to share one of the biggest things I’ve learned from the last 20 years: not getting specific enough about what I truly, deeply wanted kept it from arriving.

I feared I’d be handcuffing the universe, making its job so hard it would take exponentially longer, nearing on impossible, to deliver anything at all.

20 Years of Good Enough

I never got too specific in my dating process. I made a lot of allowances and concessions.

“The biggest mistake,” I told myself “would be getting too specific. You’re liable to end up alone.”

I thought getting attached to the “cursed hows” was how you blocked the thing you wanted from arriving.

So I didn’t put too many parameters on the partners the Universe sent my way.

And when the proposals came, I said yes three times, when my entire being was internally screaming, NO!

So when my third marriage finally ended in January 2026, I told everyone the same thing: I was done.

Not taking a break. Done.

I reasoned that I had bad luck, was hard to live with, and deep down felt it would be unfair to put my family through another tumultuous round of “Eryn’s Bad Dating Luck” again.

The Cruise that Remapped the Destination

In December of 2025, I was cruising for the holiday with my parents. And there’s a rhythm and routine when I travel with them.

So imagine my surprise when going to the bar for a glass of ice for my mom resulted in making a friend.